Inside: 5 Easy Tips to Silence Your Haters For Good.
Regardless of how you choose to live your life, you will encounter haters everywhere. For whatever reason, haters dump their insecurity, fear, and negativity on you in an attempt to mask their feelings while attempting to make themselves feel better. The hater wants to drag you down in their misery, but I say prove them wrong. Haters can’t stand seeing the success of others.
You see cases like this every single day. People saying “your business will never succeed”, “Why are you even bothering to lose weight? You’re just going to gain it back again like you always do”. This type of talk is what haters use to judge you in an attempt to belittle your thoughts and actions.
There will always be someone in your life waiting for you to fail, but what makes the hater different is they are vocal about their desire to see you fail, and they have no problem telling you or others. Anybody who has achieved any level of success in their life has dealt with haters. If you’d like to stifle your haters and prove them wrong then here are 5 ways to start!
It’s time to realize you can’t please everyone
Life becomes so much better when you realize that you can’t please everyone in life. Unhappy people will always exist no matter how hard you try. Those unhappy people are most likely not just unhappy with you but unhappy with life in general. Their unhappiness has nothing to do with you. They merely take out their anger on you and let in manifest into a hater mentality.
In the end, your goal should be to please yourself and not worry so much about everyone else. Don’t give up on who you are and what your goals are to try to please others. Stay your course.
Don’t lower yourself just ignore them!
9 times out of 10, the behavior that a hater has toward you has nothing to do with you but everything to do with them. They can’t take the fact that you are doing well or garnering attention, so they think that by acting out against they will create attention for themselves. For this reason, you should not lower yourself to their level but instead, ignore them.
How many times have you logged on to a social media account and witnessed some verbal lashing in a series of tweets? Social media has provided regular people the opportunity to interact with famous people, but this interaction sometimes becomes hateful. Insults are slung back are forth while the conversation goes nowhere all the while drawing attention to the hater feeding their ego. “Look at me, look at me”!
Give them attention, and their ego will grow but ignore them, and they will go away. The media uses this technique nowadays more than ever before. Remember those kids in cages at the border? Whatever happened to them? For a short time, those caged children were a gigantic issue, but once our attention wained, the media moved on to something else. Social media works in the same manner. Trending topics appear at the top of your feed to keep the story alive and to keep us “feeding the beast”.
We can’t possibly pay attention to everything that crosses our paths in life. Give attention to what you see as essential, and don’t waste your time on foolish back and forth. Instead, smile and walk away.
Learn from them
Every moment in your life is a lesson, and we can always find a takeaway. It may be challenging to look past the hate spewed your way, but if you peel back the layers and examine the situation in greater detail, you may reveal a lesson. The lesson may come from the way the other person is thinking or perhaps a manner in which they act, which you most surely want to avoid in the future.
Upon further review, you may be able to learn a bit about yourself based on others’ behavior towards you. Consequently, use their hate to fuel you to do better.
You are important
People will not “hate on you” unless you are doing something right. People don’t hate nobodies. They hate successful people and those more successful than them. People who stand for something typically receive a lot of hate as do winners. As a NY Yankees fan I can fully attest to the haters! Wear your haters like a badge of honor. If you weren’t doing something right, they wouldn’t be trying to grab your attention and bring you down.
Use their hate to motivate you to do even better.
Whatever gets thrown your way in the form of hate or doubt, disregard it, stay the course and focus. The amount of successful people in life who were told they aren’t good enough or smart enough to succeed is staggering. People who have time to comment on you aren’t spending enough time worrying about themselves. The better you do in life, the louder the volume of the people against you. Don’t waste precious time and energy in your day battling against haters. Energy wasted can be better spent on reaching your goals and dreams.
If you want to silence your haters and prove people wrong in the process, then follow these 5 tips above. It’s vital to keep your eye on the prize at all times and don’t lose focus for a second. Even though you might have people cheering for you fail, many others want you to succeed and achieve your dreams. Use others’ doubt and negativity to propel you forward instead of drag you down. How satisfied will you feel in the end when you’ve achieved your goal while the naysayers are watching and waiting? I can tell you it will feel pretty good!
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Haters try to grab hold of a spot in your life. They “hate” being ignored. They try to fuel others to join them in this endeavor. Ignoring them is extremely difficult to accomplish, but is such good advice.
Why give them a place in our daily walk? Why validate them by giving them an audience? They feed on the back and forth interactions with you.
Why even think you could ever please them? Don’t try! This surely is not your goal in life.
Your life focus is not their hatred. Your focus is on your goals.
Stay your coarse and eventually haters will move on to greener fields.
I always have a motto. A wise woman once told me “Haters make you famous and lovers make you rich” and I feel like this applies today in some shape or form. It’s crucial to not even think of those who hate you because it can really mess with your psyche. It is crucial to just stay focused and true to yourself and goals in life. The best revenge in life is being successful and not caring at all what those people say.
I love this motto!
It’s so sad that some people prefer to drag others down instead of lift them up. But like you said, it’s because of their own insecurities. Great tips here, Scott!
Thanks Geneva. Love your name.
I agree that most haters are simply envious people. I feel sorry for them when I think of it… but I don’t think of them often. I’ve been lucky not to come across many haters in my life… or maybe I just haven’t noticed them because I naturally ignore them and they become silent. 🙂
I totally agree that we shouldn’t lower ourselves to their level. Ignoring them is the best approach. Otherwise, it would be hard to maintain focus.
I really enjoyed reading this post. Essentially everything you said resonated so well with me. There is just no point in engaging with haters. It makes far more sense to focus on ‘running your own race’ and achieving what is important to you. There are certainly better things we could be doing with our time than worrying about what haters say!
It has often been said that the true sign of success is the haters coming out of the woodwork. In most cases, these people don’t actually hate you or what you’re doing at all – they’re just jealous of the things you have achieved. The best thing way that I have learned to adapt is to take it as a compliment and use it to motivate me to keep plugging forward. As they say, silence your haters by achieving everything that they say you can’t!!!
Yep, haters usually hate themselves and project it on to others. Good tips for managing if you’re the recipient of hate.
Yes, sadly that’s true, you can’t always please everyone. These are so great thoughts on this topic. Thank you !
Haters gonna hate no matter. Just put your hater blockers on and move forward. I love your statement about “It’s time to realize you can’t please everyone.” No one can and while we would love too it is just not possible. Great post and keep on preaching the truth.
Great list of tips, and you are completely right you can’t please everyone and you’ll run yourself ragged trying. This was a great article to read!
That tip about not engaging with the insanity should be handed out when you sign up for the Internet (well, maybe life). We all have an instinct to defend ourselves, but doing so can often lead to spiraling down into a rabbit hole of insanity. Deep breath, walk away…
It should be part of the agreement of life actually. 🙂
oh you can say that again. Haters gonna hate, that’s it but it’s never mentally easy to make you feel it in your heart
Use the hate to motivate you. I’ve said this before to other bloggers myself! It’s just the greatest way to give someone the middle finger. Easily my favorite piece of advice. Haters are everywhere, and that’s fine. I know that life clearly sucks for them and that isn’t my problem.
Confidence is key, they will move on when they realize they can’t affect you. Definitely don’t engage with them.
I don’t have haters, just fans that don’t know they’re fans just yet lol I’m totally joking of course. But yeah in a world full of haters you’ve just gotta do what you want anyways because “haters gonna hate”